The Uncomfortable Truth

Ep.23 - Living to ‘help others’ is toxic

In this episode we discuss how the brave and more difficult path is to live for ourselves.  How we can hide in 'helping others' because the focus is off of ourself, and more insidiously, we can win brownie points at the time and be the goodie goodie while we hide.  
We discuss how the ego attempts to make itself the moral 'goodie', and how the way to mitigate being manipulated is to anchor to our own value system. The more we are anchored to our own value system, the less sensitive we are to others opinions. 
Perhaps the biggest service we can give to the world and to other people is to focus on ourselves, and live our fullest and truest expression. 
 

Ep. 22 - Do you qualify as a 'sick person'? - (objectifying sickness)

One of the major issues mistakes in thinking in our western medical system is the categorical distinction between 'sick' or 'not sick'.  It seems that if we are not sick, then there is nothing that the medical system can do for us, and we should just suck it up, OR if we do qualify, then we have an objective disorder and should be treated differently and given pharmaceuticals. 
A great question to ask is "what is the diagnosis in service of" - as the diagnosis can lead to us playing all sorts of psychological games, most of which are toxic.  In this episode I make a case for taking a more balanced approach, where we aren't a catastrophizing hypochondriac, yet we can honour the truth of what's going on, rather than ignoring the situation just because we don't qualify for a diagnosis. 

Ep. 21 - Good tears & Bad tears (Processing Emotions)

One of the best episodes yet!
If we don't understand our emotions and how to process them, then how can we expect to communicate well and relate to each other?
A great episode which discusses the difference between good and bad emoting, holding space, psychological entanglement, and some 'MAFS' references to boot. 
 

Ep. 20 - Biohacking is a bad attitude

In this episode we discuss how biohacking by definition is an attempt to 'hack the system' and that this attitude is not the best long term philosophy for health.  Biohacking may have some utility, but we neeed to see the big picture, otherwise we may get lost chasing the 'shiny object' and chasing the 'cool thing' of the day i.e. use it as an avoidance, rather than as a way to speed our physiological recalibration. 
We also discuss how we are over-attending to the physical, with meticulous regimens in diet and exercise, while we are metaphorically "in the toddler pool flapping around" with our emotional and mental fitness.  We seem to be neglecting the areas of health where all the leverage is. 

Ep. 19 - Worrying about others is an act of violence - ‘Ahimsa’

In this episode we discuss an idea from yogic indian philosophy (Yamas and Niyamas) on how "Worry is an act of violence and cannot exist simultaneously with love"
So often we think that we are doing people a favour by worrying about them. In this podcast episode, we discuss how worry is a selfish projection of our own fears into the situation, and can actually considered an act of violence.
Can we learn to turn our worry about people we care about into 'faith', because our psychic projections have an impact!

Ep. 18 - Letting go of the 'good girl'

In this episode, we discuss how having an identity around being a 'good person' can sometimes get us stuck in bad relationships where our need to feel like the 'good girl' can be used against us.  If we are too hung up on being liked by others or concerns about what others think of us, it can get us into compromising relationships where we are controlled.
The uncomfortable truth is that we may also be getting a payoff for being in these relationships, and at some level we are an energetic match to these relationships. 
In order to have more balanced relationships, it may require us to let go of the need to be liked or 'good', so that we can be free to be our genuine selves.

Ep. 17 - Migraines & Headaches

We can be sitting quietly at our desks, meanwhile on the inside we are "sitting in a soup of cortisol and adrenaline, meanwhile the person next to us is none the wiser..." 
In this episode I share my thoughts and experience with my clients with respect to migraines and headaches.  We discuss the main interim solutions to address immediate pain including botox and medications. 
The long-term solutions however, require behavioural change.  Whether we are addressing pure 'physical stagnation' from lack of movement or mental stress, we need to identify and understand the aggravating factors, in order to address the 'real' problem. 
Mental stress is a huge component of migraines and headaches which is usually not well understood and addressed.  In this episode we discuss how an awareness of our daily emotional, mental and energetic patterns is the starting point towards making behavioural adjustments which will keep us in an ongoing healthy state, rather than relying solely on short term solutions which may have more damaging impacts.  

Ep. 16 - Which Limiting Beliefs do you have 'Stockholm Syndrome' for?

In order to heal and change for the better, it helps to have an understanding of why we are doing the negative thing to begin with. 
In this episode we discuss how we are essentially choosing our negative stories! You might ask - "What do I possibly have to gain from limiting beliefs?". There is always a reason....
We look into why we have 'Stockholm Syndrome' for our limiting beliefs and want to defend our captors. 
We also consider an analogy of ourselves as gemstones and how our pschological and mental mechanisms are obstructions to the light coming through us.  We then use then analogy to help discuss the two main ways to speed our own healing and personal evolution. 

Ep. 15 - Spiritual bypassing & discernment in selecting practitioners

Often in this culture we can be sucked into the 'cool thing' to do, rather than the 'real work', and becoming overly attached to the vehicle/container/practitioner/method/technique etc. can be a way to Spiritual Bypass. It is important to use discernment and select high quality coaches to help us fast-track our process, and yet, it is our sincerity, intention, and willingness to confront what is present, which will help us evolve, not the particular method or any other tools we choose to work with. 
In this episode we discuss the fundamental assumption that we are responsible for our own health, and how this belief affects the outcomes in our lives.

Ep. 14 - Amadu Koroma - A chat about fitness

Candid chat with PT, Amadu Koroma discussing some of the major lessons and misconceptions within the fitness world.