The Uncomfortable Truth

Ep. 27 - 'The plan wasn't bad' - you just need to stick to it.

In this episode we discuss how a common issue that people tend to have in pursuit of any goal in any domain is that we abandon the plan for a new one, or leave it before we've had time to see any results.  
Many plans will work, but no plan will work that is not seen out.  
In this episode we use an example between an Pro and Amateur lifter, and how we often misattribute the reasons for the pro's success.  Often we attribute their success to the fancy peripheral exercises, when in fact, their success is due to the quality with which they do the basics.  
Perhaps the uncomfortable truth is that we are using these objects and details like the structure of the training program as an excuse to get out of getting into the hard work and moving through those points of resistance. 

Ep. 26 - 'Toxic Niceness' - "I can't say no to my friends"

Do you ever feel like you over extend yourself, or feel resentment that you're always doing too much for others?  Sometimes 'being nice' is the toxic thing to do!
In this episode we explore the topic of 'toxic niceness'. The uncomfortable truth is that if we are 'being nice' when it is not appropriate too, then we are actually not being a good person. Enabling a friend's bad behaviour (or anyone's), and abandoning what feels right for ourselves is actually toxic behaviour. 
Often we convince ourselves that this toxic behaviour is just us being compassionate or caring, and we hide behind a moral veneer.  The uncomfortable truth is that we may be lying to ourselves and lacking the courage to confront the bad behaviour and do what is right for us.

Ep. 25 - The ‘Magic’ Happens on Day 37

In this episode we discuss how tangible results are not linear, even if the action steps we take are linear and consistent.  We discuss some of the min excuses people use as Exit strategies, such as blaming the 'vehicle' or strategy, when the results don't come straight away - resulting in us continuing to chase the next shiny object, rather than see a plan through to completion.  
The uncomfortable truth in this episode is that we may actually be sub-consiously invested in our own failure due to 'safety of the known', 'avoiding failure', or 'rationalising our own procrastination'.....
Ultimately it is the carrying through our plans to completion where we grow, because whether we hit our target or not, we will know if the strategy was effective, rather than staying in the same spot in continual speculation and stagnation. 
 

Ep. 24 - Balancing various weekly exercise

If we don't get clear on what our goals are and balance our exercise properly, we may flip flop between different activities and will not develop as quickly, and may injure ourselves. In this episode we touch on some broad principles with respect to Running and Weight training in the same regimen.  When we have competing goals and physical exercise, what are the rules.
There is so much information out there on individual goals, but almost nothing out there on how to manage a real life situation with a number of activities in our week. 

Ep.23 - Living to ‘help others’ is toxic

In this episode we discuss how the brave and more difficult path is to live for ourselves.  How we can hide in 'helping others' because the focus is off of ourself, and more insidiously, we can win brownie points at the time and be the goodie goodie while we hide.  
We discuss how the ego attempts to make itself the moral 'goodie', and how the way to mitigate being manipulated is to anchor to our own value system. The more we are anchored to our own value system, the less sensitive we are to others opinions. 
Perhaps the biggest service we can give to the world and to other people is to focus on ourselves, and live our fullest and truest expression. 
 

Ep. 22 - Do you qualify as a 'sick person'? - (objectifying sickness)

One of the major issues mistakes in thinking in our western medical system is the categorical distinction between 'sick' or 'not sick'.  It seems that if we are not sick, then there is nothing that the medical system can do for us, and we should just suck it up, OR if we do qualify, then we have an objective disorder and should be treated differently and given pharmaceuticals. 
A great question to ask is "what is the diagnosis in service of" - as the diagnosis can lead to us playing all sorts of psychological games, most of which are toxic.  In this episode I make a case for taking a more balanced approach, where we aren't a catastrophizing hypochondriac, yet we can honour the truth of what's going on, rather than ignoring the situation just because we don't qualify for a diagnosis. 

Ep. 21 - Good tears & Bad tears (Processing Emotions)

One of the best episodes yet!
If we don't understand our emotions and how to process them, then how can we expect to communicate well and relate to each other?
A great episode which discusses the difference between good and bad emoting, holding space, psychological entanglement, and some 'MAFS' references to boot. 
 

Ep. 20 - Biohacking is a bad attitude

In this episode we discuss how biohacking by definition is an attempt to 'hack the system' and that this attitude is not the best long term philosophy for health.  Biohacking may have some utility, but we neeed to see the big picture, otherwise we may get lost chasing the 'shiny object' and chasing the 'cool thing' of the day i.e. use it as an avoidance, rather than as a way to speed our physiological recalibration. 
We also discuss how we are over-attending to the physical, with meticulous regimens in diet and exercise, while we are metaphorically "in the toddler pool flapping around" with our emotional and mental fitness.  We seem to be neglecting the areas of health where all the leverage is. 

Ep. 19 - Worrying about others is an act of violence - ‘Ahimsa’

In this episode we discuss an idea from yogic indian philosophy (Yamas and Niyamas) on how "Worry is an act of violence and cannot exist simultaneously with love"
So often we think that we are doing people a favour by worrying about them. In this podcast episode, we discuss how worry is a selfish projection of our own fears into the situation, and can actually considered an act of violence.
Can we learn to turn our worry about people we care about into 'faith', because our psychic projections have an impact!

Ep. 18 - Letting go of the 'good girl'

In this episode, we discuss how having an identity around being a 'good person' can sometimes get us stuck in bad relationships where our need to feel like the 'good girl' can be used against us.  If we are too hung up on being liked by others or concerns about what others think of us, it can get us into compromising relationships where we are controlled.
The uncomfortable truth is that we may also be getting a payoff for being in these relationships, and at some level we are an energetic match to these relationships. 
In order to have more balanced relationships, it may require us to let go of the need to be liked or 'good', so that we can be free to be our genuine selves.